I was conversing with an 80-year-old neighbor recently who taught and coached for decades in public schools in New York City and here in Virginia. When I mentioned having taught seminars in literature, history, and Latin to homeschoolers, he instantly brought up socialization, a word I’ve heard linked to homeschoolers since my wife and I began educating our oldest child at home 40 years ago.
“Homeschoolers shouldn’t go to public school when they get older,” he said, and I’m paraphrasing. “They’ve missed out on socialization. They’ve been with their moms, and then they’re put into school where there’s bullying and cursing. It even starts in kindergarten now around here, from what friends tell me. They’re just not equipped socially to handle that.”
As I’ve done on many other occasions, I defended homeschoolers against this supposed lack of social skills, pointing out that while they spend part of their days with their mothers or fathers and siblings, they also had friends, interacted with various adults, and participated in activities outside the home, like ballet, soccer, seminars like mine, and dual-enrollment classes at the community college.
But what I wanted to do was burst out laughing. Why on earth would any parent want their children “socialized” in a culture of bullying and obscenities? Continue reading →